Tokyo man arrested for attempted black magic on school kids
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One man learns the hard way that dabbling in the dark arts does not pay.
On the morning of 26 September in Tokyo, schoolchildren on their way to a day of learning and play at Edogawa Elementary School were crossing a pedestrian land bridge. However, hanging from the rail was a little doll made of straw along with a note which read “All you f***ing brats jump from here and die.”
In Japan, straw dolls (waraningyo) are used in a somewhat similar fashion to a voodoo doll, in that they are both effigies used to summon a curse upon people. Judging by the note, it would appear that someone had intended to make the children to jump to their own death through the power of the straw doll.
▼ Here’s an example of a straw doll in super-spooky action
That someone is believed to be 41-year-old Takeshi Inaba who lives near the school. According to the Tokyo Metro Police, Inaba confessed to inflicting the curse saying “Those kids running wild in the park are too noisy.”
Inaba is facing charges of criminal intimidation which, considering his supernatural method, seems a little excess.
If I were his attorney, I would argue that traditionally, the doll is made with hair or some possession of the intended victim and then nailed to a tree or wooden pillar to really get the magic flowing. By not including any personal effects or even nailing the doll, the defendant was pulling off a pretty half-assed attempt at spiritual assassination.
On the other hand, if I were the prosecutor, I would counter that he could have been adhering to Hell Girl logic in which removing a red string from the straw doll causes a demon girl to appear and devour the souls of those from whom revenge is sought.
Sure Hell Girl never showed up in this instance – most likely because she’s fictional – but that doesn’t erase his culpability.
While it’s debatable whether this incident is technically a threat, it certainly is creepy and a public nuisance. It should be noted that Inaba is also suspected of several cases of graffiti which read “Kids are too noisy!” on benches and the toilet of the local park where students are known to play.
He is also believed to have sent over 30 letters to staff and parents of Edogawa Elementary bad-mouthing them about their inability to control those “noisy kids.” So while he probably won’t get hit with the full force of the law, the suspect may have a date with a mental health examiner in store.
Really though, the guy should have just given them some money and told them to go play at a game center or ice cream shop or something. Sure it would have set him back some yen, but it seems like a small price to pay considering the mental anguish he seemed to have experienced.
And in doing that, everyone would have been satisfied with the result. Take that, people who say money can’t buy happiness!
Japanese manga artist draws hilarious parody of Your Name’s Hollywood live-action remake
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What if Taki was a white guy and Mitsuha was a black girl?
Ever since the confirmation of a Hollywood live-action remake of blockbuster animeYour Name, serious doubt has been cast on whether a production steeped in Japanese culture will translate well into westernized film.
Japanese manga artist @yokoyama_bancho may have just envisioned how the movie will turn out using sprinklings of American stereotypes and a little bit of imagination.
Featuring male protagonist Taki Tachibana as a white guy from New York and Mitsuha Miyamizu as a black girl from New Orleans, hilarity ensues when they discover their bodies have been switched.
▼ Live-action Your Name, part one.
English translations courtesy of Twitter user @nise_shi. (Read right to left.)
▼ Part two of the parody.
There’s no telling who will star in the actual movie, but Japanese netizens seem to appreciate the comic at least:
“Hollywood Mitsuha seems really strong and Taki looks like a squad leader in Attack on Titan.”
“I live in America so I can relate to all of these.”
“It won’t be a Hollywood movie without big explosions.”
“I want to see this so much.”
“It’ll be rather interesting if the movie is a parody like this!”
J.J. Abrams could take a few pointers from these for the upcoming film, but short of a total overhaul of critical plot elements like the shrine ritual scenes, he has a daunting task ahead of him indeed. While I would like all Hollywood producers to leave our anime alone, perhaps some good can come out of it, particularly if it incorporates a slam dunking Mitsuha.
6 Original Couples' Costume Ideas For The Couple Who Really Wants To Stand Out
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Happy “time to plan what to be for Halloween” season — the best part of the year! It's the season where you only have one thing on your mind: to have the best and most creative costume on Halloween, so your Instagram pics get a lot of likes. But if you're dressing up with a significant other, this task gets even harder. One thing is for sure, though. You're definitely going to need some original couples' costume ideas so that you can stand out from everyone else at the party.
Let me tell you what every couple at all the Halloween parties you go to will be dressed like. You'll have your Wes Anderson couples, or your Game of Thrones couples. Maybe couples dressed up as Betty and Jughead from Riverdale or as Sandy and Danny from Grease. You'll have a hot couple dressed up as Hugh Hefner and a Playboy bunny, and a funny couple dressed up like pizza. You don't want to be one of those couples. You want to be something creative and special — something no one else will be.
So here are six original couples' costume ideas for the couple who really wants to stand out. I want you to be getting compliments all night long.
For Halloween, why not dress up as one of your favorite things to do as a couple? Everyone loves a little wine and cheese night with their boo. (Except for me, because I don't drink, and I'm lactose intolerant, but either way, this costume is cute.) Plus, it gives you a reason to bring wine to any party you go to and drink it directly out of the bottle. And if you want, you can carry around a hunk of brie and eat it, too, Liz Lemon style.
Are you and your significant other artsy? Do you frequent museums and know the difference between a Picasso and a Lichtenstein? If so, then this is definitely the Halloween costume for you guys. Plus, this will really allow you to show off your makeup skills. In fact, that's one of the most important aspects of the outfit.
If you know you need a little help in the makeup department, though, you can watch a pop art makeup tutorial here:
Will USB-mine? In this digital era, dress as a product that we use, in some capacity, almost every single day. Then, at the end of the night, you can always ask your date if they want to stick their USB in your port. Just be careful not to get a virus.
People will get some real kicks out of this costume. LOL. Anyway. Prove to everyone that you and your partner are a great pair by dressing up as a literal pair of shoes for Halloween. Great for any couple with a foot or shoe fetish.
Can't forget about any non-traditional couples out there! For any groups of three who want to dress up together on Halloween, this Rock, Paper, Scissors costume is a great idea. And if you get into any fights during the night, you can always play a game of Rock, Paper, Scissors to settle the score.
If you and your partner keep flip flopping on your relationship status, then why not dress up as a pair of literal flip flops for Halloween? It might send your significant other a subliminal message that it's time to make a decision when it comes to your relationship. Plus, if you're sick of all those costumes that are overly revealing, this outfit is a great alternative.
If You And Your Partner Make Each Other Feel These 3 Things, It's True Love
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Nintendo releases official, free online PDF of EarthBound player’s guide for anyone to read
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While you’re waiting for a SNES Classic, take a look at one of the best player’s guides of all time.
EarthBound is my favorite game. It was the first RPG I played as a kid, and I vividly remember making a giant chart with a hundred empty boxes that I’d fill in each time I beat it. So yeah, I was a bit of a lonely child with a lot of free time, but I did fill up that chart eventually, just like EarthBound filled up my heart.
And honestly one of the reasons that I loved the game so much was because of the player’s guide that came bundled with it. Unlike other guides, this one wasn’t just a bunch of terrible “pro tips” mixed with grainy screenshots.
The guide for EarthBound is nothing less than a masterpiece, which may sound strange to say about a player’s guide, but it’s earned the accolade. It has gorgeous visuals, 3D clay models of almost every enemy, made-up newspapers and stories for each location, not to mention the hilariously-infamous scratch and sniff cards, great information, secrets, and inside jokes.
▼ Here’s the fake newspaper for Onett, the first town.
It doesn’t just give the story, but conveys the tone perfectly too.
Unfortunately many people who have only been introduced to EarthBound recently via virtual console have never been able to play through the game alongside the guide. It really is a different experience, kind of like watching a great movie then reading the great book it was based off.
But now, to go along with the recent release of the Super Nintendo Classic Edition (which has EarthBound as a playable game), Nintendo has officially put up a free PDF of the player’s guide for anyone to enjoy.
▼ The cover of the guide. A 90s Nickelodeon-esque green splat with a badass alien,
plus postcards from around the world somehow sums up the game perfectly.
It seems like the guide was uploaded by Nintendo due to a happy accident. All of the other SNES Classic games just have their instruction manuals uploaded, but since EarthBound never came with an instruction manual — it only ever came bundled with the strategy guide — we get the whole thing instead.
Up until now the guide has been prohibitively expensive for anyone wanting a hard copy, sometimes running over US$100 online. But now that Nintendo has just made it free online, anyone can follow along on their computer, tablet, or even printing it out and binding it together!
▼ Just look at this gorgeous page. The colors, the overlapping action, the details on
all of the miniatures, especially Frankystein Mark II in the bottom left. It’s amazing.
▼ I love how the guide isn’t afraid to just put in random real-world
photos next to screenshots. It’s hilarious and fits the game.
▼ Each location gets a step-by-step quick guide. I will say though that “Enlist King’s
Help” (fourth down) confused me as a kid (“King” being the default name for the dog).
▼ The guide does make a few other odd choices too. Like making a huge
deal out of how to get the Sword of Kings, Poo’s ultimate weapon…
▼ …but then relegating all of the other ultimate items
to the bottom left of a random newspaper page.
▼ And then saying you get the Gutsy Bat from Kraken, but you actually get it from Bionic Kraken later… which they said drops the “Legendary Bat” in the previous image!
But still, despite a few errors that probably came with the writers working with an earlier version of the game, we love this guide. In fact, we’re not pointing out its mistakes to be mean, we’re just remembering them fondly, like reminiscing with an old friend about stupid high school stuff you did together.
If you’ve never played EarthBound before, then you should get on that immediately, and be sure to play alongside the guide. And if you have played it before but never used the guide, then consider giving it another playthrough. It will make you feel like your first time playing the SNES all over again.
You can check out the EarthBound player’s guide here, and the instruction manuals for all the other SNES Classic games here.
Lust-filled faces from erotic manga and anime now available to buy in clothing form
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Show your love of erotic manga and anime, and disdain of social conventions, with a T-shirt!
Anime or manga T-shirts, like band T-shirts, are a popular way of announcing to the rest of the world your interests and how you identify yourself. Similarly, wearing your sports team’s colours may show the pride you have in your hometown (or the necessity to kick six bells out of each other in the case of the Old Firm).
Funnily enough, not many people choose to show their love of animated pornography through their clothing, presumably one reason why being a dearth of buying options. No longer is that an issue, as an ahegao (the name given to faces showing unbridled lust in anime and manga) clothing range allows wearers to show their predilections, and look good, or more likely creepy, doing it.
AliExpress, an online retailer which gathers together a number of Chinese manufacturers large and small (some of whom have a very relaxed policy towards copyright infringement), is now selling the over-the-top face of desire on a range of clothes.
▼ With several different designs, in black & white and colour, you can have one for every day of the week!
If you already have a favourite T-shirt, you can have the ahegao design plastered all over your lower half instead, including some attention-grabbing face placement. Well, you do need something to wear on those occasions you can tear yourself away from your pillow.
▼ As winter is coming, you can wrap up warm while giving your target the eye, or the many eyes of child-like faces. What girl/guy could resist?
The prices vary between sellers on the site, but the T-shirts and trousers generally cost between one and two thousand yen (US$8.88-17.77) and the hoodies retail for between two and three thousand. Whether the clothes count as NSFW or even not safe for wearing outside the house, is up to you. For one thing, the images might cause spontaneous nosebleeds among fellow aficionados.
10 Reasons You Should Say “I Love You” First, Even If It's Scary
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I have never said “I love you” first. While I believe that women can and should ask men out, request to be exclusive, and even propose wedded bliss, somehow the archaic “wait for him to make a move” mindset has seeped into my subconscious. Or… maybe I'm just chicken. (Probably the latter.) I'm not sure if I've ever even wondered, “Should I say I love you first?” because like the best-when-fried poultry item that I am akin to, there's just no way I would take the plunge first.
Plunge? That sounds awful. (FWIW, I am in therapy to deal with my fears around intimacy.) Saying “I love you” is not a plunge; it's a god damn beautiful declaration. If you are in a relationship and you want to say “I love you” — assuming it's not two dates in — pop bottles, because you've found that elusive thing that movies, books, and plays have chronicled for eons. Love is nothing to be ashamed of; it's something to be proud of (and brag about… have you seen Instagram during wedding season?!?).
Not to diminish the nerves that come up around actually saying the words for the first time. It's scary. So scary that I have never done it, and I'm not sure if I ever will. (Here's hoping.) However, I thought a lot about it and came up with 10 reasons you should say “I love you” first. Here they are:
Trolls can @ me all they want, and the rest of you can realize that I'm being tongue-in-cheek. Still, if the only thing holding you back from saying “I love you” to your partner is the patriarchy? Do it anyway. It's scary, but look at Hill dawg; she's still alive.
Saying “I love you” first is a gift to yourself because it means that you are acknowledging your own wants and needs, and taking an actionable step towards having them met. You want to tell someone how much you care about them. You can't contain your love for them. These are all really cool things, and you will feel so good saying the first ILY because when do you not feel good after following through on something that made you nervous?
OK, the first “I love you” is always awkward, but usually people just say it back no matter what, you know? Awkwardness is scary, so your SO will probably just blurt it right back at you, whether they were ready or not. And if they don't? No worries. They'll say it when they are ready. (I know, easier said than done.)
Seriously, at worst, the person you like will feel flattered when you pop the three most terrifying words out there. If your partner runs away screaming, they'll be back if they truly love you. Which brings me to…
Poll your friends to find out how many of them have said “I love you” first. I bet the percentage is lower than our president's approval rating. (38 percent on a good day.) Just saying it will be an awesome accomplishment, especially if you're usually nervous about sharing your feels.
Hey, your lover could be bursting at the seams with feelings, but they could just be too terrified to say it. (Same.) Do them a favor and extend a hand/phrase.
Kind of like finally peeing after holding it for a long time? But seriously, it's so hard to keep feelings that are as big as “love” to yourself. Rather than continue to blabber on to your friends about the love of your life, tell bae already!
OK, so I a little bit made this one up, but logic would follow that once you finally are vulnerable via words with all of your feelings with your partner, you can be that much more vulnerable when in bed with them. If this is your only motivation to say the words, mayyybe don't. But it could be an added bonus, you know?
At the end of the day, the best time to say “I love you” is when you truly feel it. There's nothing quite as wonderful as falling in love, and while saying the words is nerve-wracking, they're just words. The right partner will either say them back to you, or be mature and kind and eventually say them to you in their own time.
The weight these three words have is what makes them so great to hear, but also what makes them so scary to say. I'm not the bravest of ladies, but after writing this, I want to fall in love so that maybe, just maybe, I can be the one to say it first. I have shivers just thinking about it. Woo! Say it, babes.
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5 Things Happy Couples Do Differently When They Argue With Each Other
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Despite how satisfied you are with your relationship, every couple gets into it sometimes. Maybe your partner won't break that irritating habit of leaving the toilet seat up, or you start to become sick and tired of their aimless nagging — look, nobody's perfect. Arguing is a totally natural part of any relationship. There are, however, a few healthy arguing techniques that separate couples who are happy overall and those who may be headed toward destruction.
Although many people worry that arguing is a sign that something may be wrong in the relationship (i.e., a compatibility issue, unwillingness to compromise over something fundamental, etc.), in reality, it would definitely be a concern if two years into a relationship, you and your partner never had so much as a single disagreement. This is not to say that you should worry if you and your boo never duke it out as long as you both are being honest about your wants and needs. (We all know how tempting it can be cover up our true feelings in hopes of avoiding conflict.)
The truth is, the vast majority of disagreements can be resolved with just a few adjustments to your fighting style.
1. They Take Turns Talking
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I have to say that I am the worst when it comes to this one. The minute I get heated, I start talking a mile a minute without letting my partner get a word in.
When you're upset about something, it can be easy to forget that every situation has two sides, and no matter how convinced you are that you're right, it's only fair that you each get the opportunity to present your case. Not talking over each other shows your partner that you care about what they have to say and their opinions on the issue — yes, even when deep down, you know they are spouting BS by the mouthful.
In my opinion, this is the key to keep your arguing at a manageable level that won't leave you feeling guilty for saying something you shouldn't have. I know, I know, but what if they did something super messed up? Don't they get their rights revoked? Nope.
2. They Avoid Letting The Conversation Escalate To Yelling
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The biggest way to keep arguing from exploding into a relationship-ending fight, believe it or not, is by following point number one and letting your partner talk. Why? Because the minute you throw caution to the wind and stop taking turns speaking is the minute you begin to talk over each other. Once you start talking over each other, the person who feels it's their turn to talk starts talking louder to ensure they are being heard. Before you know it, you're screaming at full volume an inch away from their face, and the chance to settle things diplomatically has gone out the window.
Now, that being said, if the subject of the argument is particularly sensitive (i.e., a suspected infidelity), it can feel almost impossible to keep things at a calm level. But you must try.
3. They Don't Bring Up Past Issues (Unless They Are Very Relevant)
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We've all been there in the heat of arguing when we feel like our partner is not really listening, let alone absorbing, a word that we're saying. In these moments, it can be all too tempting to throw just about everything they've ever done wrong in their face. But please, please resist the urge.
If something from the past that your partner did is still upsetting you or, for whatever reason, was left unresolved, it is totally OK to start a conversation about it. However, if you are in the middle of a fight about a completely unrelated topic, it is a very bad idea to bring up arguments outside of the one that's currently happening. Mainly because this is a black hole — all it does is give you more reasons to keep fighting.
On the other hand, if they have been displaying patterns of related bad behavior, drawing on past situations to prove your point isn't the worst. But do tread carefully.
4. They Acknowledge Each Other's Viewpoints
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Once you're amped up and convinced that they are the one who's completely in the wrong, it can be really tough to acknowledge any validity in their point of views. Even when you're upset, if your partner is saying things that you know deep down are true, then it doesn't hurt to give credit where credit is due.
This doesn't mean that you have to let them wiggle their way out of the issue at hand, but it does present an opportunity to remember that in the end, you are with them because in the grand scheme of things, you are both on the same side. Even if the situation doesn't allow for you to acknowledge their viewpoints, it's a good idea to at the very least acknowledge their feelings.
5. They Don't Resort To Below The Belt Tactics Purely For The Sake Of Winning
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There is absolutely no reason you or your partner should resort to name-calling or any other immature tactics to distract from the main source of the argument. Usually, the person who initiates this behavior is doing it because inside, they know that they are in the wrong. In a last-ditch effort to “win,” they say something hurtful and completely irrelevant.
This is extremely unhealthy. Arguing doesn't give you a free pass to go HAM on your significant other. If you say something hurtful in the middle of the fight, don't make the mistake of thinking your partner will be so easy to forgive you because you “got caught up.”
If you ever find yourself in an argument where things have escalated to a point where you feel physically or emotionally threatened, then it is time to stop immediately and remove yourself from the situation. Even if they continue to try to engage, sometimes the best thing to do is to take a step back, separate yourself, and return to the topic at another time when you both are feeling fully in control.
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4 Deep Questions To Ask Your Partner If You Feel Like They're Pulling Away
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I once got food poisoning from a very renowned oyster spot in the basement of a very famous train station in New York City that shall remain nameless (ish). Needless to say, it wasn't pretty. In fact, it felt like what I imagine dying feels like (#drama). Still, I'd prefer shellfish sick-to-your-stomach knots over the knots that come from knowing the person you love is pulling away from you. Heartbreak sucks, to put it plainly. I try to avoid it at all costs. If you too hate sadness, you might brainstorm some questions to ask your boyfriend to find out why the F he's pulling away.
The thing about “pulling away” is that it's a pretty vague term. Pulling away could mean your partner is having a bad night and just wants to go to bed early sans sex because of the current state of the world, which is a boner killer for sure. Pulling away could also mean that they have been harboring some doubt for a while now, and rather than tell you about it, they've decided to ruminate on their own for a bit until they figure things out.
It's a terrible feeling to be wondering if your partner is “over it,” and your imagination is probably going to tell you something like “they despise you and are just sticking around until your lease it up.” So be an adult and ASK THEM WHAT'S HAPPENING! (I feel passionately about this.) Here are some things you can say:
This is a starting off point for the confrontation-shy people out there. If you feel like your partner is pulling away, you might try to determine whether they are actually pulling away in reality or in your head by asking them out. That's right, dates are important forever.
See how your partner responds, and then plan something special for them. If they are avoidant or an assh*le about it, then you say: “What's the deal? Because last time I checked, we were dating.” Easy. (And a little bit sassy, but hey, your boo should want to go on a date with you.)
I know, super dramatic turn here. This doesn't have to be, “Are you happy with me?” but if you simply ask, “How are you?” you probably won't get much in return. Check in with your partner genuinely about how they're feeling. Maybe something at work is stressful that you don't know about, and your partner will be happy to vent about it. This is a good way to check your paranoia.
3. Can You Take Care Of The Apartment When I Go Away Next Weekend?
Now, I don't think you should need your partner's approval to go on a trip, because you are an independent woman who chooses what to do with her time. I also don't think you need to empty your bank account to give your partner space for the weekend because, again, you are allowed to do whatever you want. But I do think getting away from your partner for a bit will allow you to reflect on what's really going on. Giving your partner space might also make them reconsider how they've been acting in the relationship.
Pick a cool getaway; I'm dying to go to Charleston.
I know, just putting it out there is scary, but isn't this really what you want to ask your partner? I wouldn't encourage this in a paranoid, every-other-day-ask kind of way, but if you are uncertain of how your partner feels for you because they are exceedingly withdrawn, just f*cking ask the question. (I know, I'm being harsh; I'm just a big believer in telling it like it is.) If you are someone with trust issues, however, don't take this route until you're certain your partner is truly pulling away.
All in all, you're going to have doubts about your relationship sometimes. Everyone does. Your partner is also allowed to have doubts and take time with those feelings so that they can sort them out. You can't force a relationship, but you can decide what you want from one. If you want a partner who communicates their feelings about you openly and regularly, be with someone who will tell you “I love you, I'm just busy at work right now, sorry for being so distant.” Otherwise, you will go insane the rest of your relationship's days.
Find someone who leaves you with no doubts about the way they feel about you. That's what everyone deserves.
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How To Let Your Partner Know Just How Much You Appreciate Them
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Coming together with someone who really gets you comes with so many perks. Whether it's the fact that they always remember to buy your favorite snacks or simply know the right thing to say to pull you out of your darker moments, being in a healthy relationship can feel super amazing. As the months begin to fly by, it can be easy to take all of the oh-so-sweet things they do for granted. This is why it's so important to tell someone how much you appreciate them.
Sometimes, life gets so hectic and we get so bogged down in our own drama that our partners can start to feel neglected. This is totally understandable — no one wants to feel like they are always going out of their way for a significant other who doesn't appreciate all of their hard work. It can also be all too easy to simply assume that they know how you feel, which can ultimately lead to hurt feelings and, in extreme cases, resentment. The good news is that showing your appreciation either verbally or through your actions isn't complicated and presents a great opportunity to reconnect.
Follow these steps, and your partner will be feeling the love in no time.
1. Tell Them In The Moment
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This goes without saying, but can be forgotten in the haze of the craziness that is life.
Figuring out how to best cater to a partner's needs isn't always easy. Sometimes, it takes some trial and error to remember what exactly to pick up at the grocery store or what flavor of ice cream is their favorite. That is why it's so important to remember to point out whatever they did right that brightened your day, even if it was something as small as buying a special treat they know you love.
And always remember to thank them in the moment. If they're at work, then shoot them a cute text or pic of you enjoying your snack. It sounds silly, but communicating appreciation in the moment always comes off a little bit sweeter and sincere than after the effects of their gesture have worn off.
2. Tell Them Again
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Again, taking the time to acknowledge what your partner does for you is key. It never hurts to thank them a second time. It might feel like overkill, but it's always better to err on the side of over-appreciative rather than under-appreciative.
Sometimes, a simple thank you isn't quite enough. When you get home or the next morning, really take a moment to acknowledge what they did specifically and how it made you feel. Not only will they feel great knowing that they did something right, but it's also a great way to keep the communication flowing.
3. Return The Favor
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Imagine if you were in love with someone and constantly did sweet things to show your love and the gestures were rarely reciprocated. This would feel like a huge bummer. Life doesn't always allow for grandiose romantic gestures, but sometimes just helping your partner deal with a problem they've been avoiding or finally organizing their massive record collection is all it takes.
Remember that different types of people receive love in different ways. Some people feel the most love when their partner shows them physical affection, some people feel really loved when their partner tells them, and some people feel super loved when their partner takes action. For some, it's a combination of all three. Appreciation comes in many different forms, so it may be helpful to think about what kind of “love receiver” your partner is.
4. Take The Initiative
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I know life is busy, but sometimes there doesn't need to be a catalyst for doing something thoughtful. Maybe you just passed a shop and saw a band tee you think they would really love — or perhaps a decadent-sounding new restaurant opened up and you decide to make reservations for the coming weekend, eliminating all of the potential where should we eat? I'm down for anything stress. Often times, the nicest gestures are simple, but well thought out.
Life can be tough. By putting in some effort to provide a mutually thoughtful, appreciative, and loving dynamic between the both of you, chances are they'll never want to let you go.
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